Are Presuppositions Sneaky?
Recently a student of mine posted a comment about my use of the relationship between instructor and student in an example of presupposition. They suggested, with a wink and a smiley face, that maybe I was being a tiny sneaky in using the example in a persuasive way.
I get this a lot. People find out I’m in the persuasion business and they assume I am attempting to persuade them, no matter what the situation. I’ve definitely had some struggles with this for many years. People feel they can’t trust my sincerity because, ‘After all, he’s one of the top persuasion experts in the world. . . isn’t he trying to persuade me?’
This always kind of upset me until finally I just kind of got used to it. I just realized, people are going to think whatever they’re going to think.
I operate from a place of integrity and I’m just genuinely myself at all time. It has been a struggle to remain un-jaded. I tend not to have ulterior motives.
Ulterior is what lies beyond what’s obvious, evident and apparent. This can be framed as negative, especially if the motive is deceptive or concealed, but ulterior motives don’t have to be sneaky.
I have no problem with ulterior motives that are supportive. Ulterior is behind the scenes. When I use my skills to help clients stay involved with me, especially because I know that I’m really giving them a valuable service, then I don’t see any lack of integrity in that whatsoever.
To my student who is so suspicious, I state that I know the people I work with are gaining great insight and value whether I persuade them to work with me or not. I would advocate, you will find the same is true for you.
This is sort of humorous to me and I just thought I’d show a tiny bit of what goes on in my mind and how I deal with unique problems I deal with all the time.
Early in my persuasion training, I would ask the people I was studying with if they were using their persuasion skills on me. I asked them to see how they were making their decisions.
It doesn’t mean I’m purposefully trying to do this, though I know full well that my intention is to not only give out information but to entertain. And not only information and entertainment, but longevity for my clients and me to be work together.
My intention is to to help and help and help some more. As long as that’s understood then I feel really fulfilled and I believe this is something you might want to look at in your own life because it will come up from time to time and it’s helpful to have thought it through so that you know what your views are on the subject.
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