Even If You Are Ugly, You Can Attract Women
One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.
This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:
Some men think they’re too old.
Some think they’re too fat.
Some men think they are too short.
They could be too ugly.
Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.
But lucky for all of us – this simply isn’t the case.
We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.
Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.
All you’ve to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.
Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness.
What’s the difference?
The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.
These are all aspects that factor into looking good.
Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.
Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike
Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.
Take for example; you have a zit on your nose that feels so huge that you’re sure everyone notices it there. However, in reality the pimple is under your skin and not viewable to everyone else in the world.
Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she’s attractive.
By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.
This assumption is a mistake.
Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to state they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.
A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very tiny to do with all of this.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We’re able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our huge ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…
We see it, no matter what it is.
Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you’ve insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.
A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.
And insecurity is always unattractive.
In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.
Myth #4 – Attractive Men Have It Simple
Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women don’t automatically flock to a good looking man.
Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.
Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.
When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.
You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.
This equation has a second factor and that’s of sexual attraction.
This is the capability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them.
This is when seduction comes into play.
When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to start to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you might think you have.
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