WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF?
Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are superior than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a completely eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I’m seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my huge eyes I wonder why my friends won’t speak to me I hope mother and father would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we’re enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you’ve an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.
I’ve a friend who never gets fatigued of speaking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I’m ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you’re interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I’m!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs states “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you can’t give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us superior people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had superior things, superior features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you’re perfect and you’re the ideal. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then start to feel contented and happy.
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